Your reactions

July 30, 2014

Hold in your reactions. When you feel like you want to react to a situation, hold in the tears or shouting. Think about how you feel before you let yourself react. Once you start, it's easy to snowball into a bigger reaction than the situation is really worth. Don't bottle your emotions but do think of a better way to express them or save them until you are in a better, safer place.

Waiting until the next day to talk to someone who upsets you, for example, can be really good. You'll have the chance to calm down and you'll be better able to defend and express yourself.

Keep some perspective. Think about the situation that's happening around you and think about how it affects your life. Is it really as big a deal as it seems or is it really only going to set you off a little. Compare it to other problems that people might have, like getting cancer or having your house flood. Is it really that big a deal? No? Then don't sweat it. Learning to let the small things slide off of you can really make a huge difference in how you experience your life.

Source: wikiHow

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  2. Reply  

    Alabama G Man

    July 30, 2014

    Gorgeous enlightenment thanks to for being gorgeous inside and out

  5. Reply  

    Rana Singh

    July 30, 2014

    Wonderful post for introspection,, Thank you my dear friend +Jendhamuni Sos Very good morning and have a marvelous day ahead to you :)))  

  6. Reply  

    Deane Sagato

    July 30, 2014

    Being composed and patient are the two main keys! Nice wording, Jen. Good stuff.
    5stars :

  11. Reply  

    Maria Dib

    July 30, 2014

    Nice post thank You have a nice day God bless U

  16. Reply  

    Sandy Fox

    July 30, 2014

    So true! Once again i am thankful to u my dear!!! You make me think!! Thanks!!!

  20. Reply  

    Roskin Ahmed

    July 30, 2014

    Don't worry be happy up & down is the most important part of our lives

  24. Reply  

    Gina Shallyna

    July 30, 2014

    Sometimes people react to the situation because they need to let go their emotion, the same Like you too actually… Could be because Some people built hope on them, but you're not fulfill what they Wish for… Well if someone did that, that someone should accept and understand why they easily to get upset.. not all can understand and read your mind lah… Let go all the emotion is Good to avoid you're getting Crazy hehehehe :p

  42. Reply  

    Sasha G

    July 30, 2014

    Really helpful, especially as I usually bottle up all my emotions and then someone will do something small and I'll just kind of explode lol, sometimes it's even my best friend but she understands. Great advice about waiting till you're in a private place to let out emotions, thank you!

  59. Reply  

    Carlos Bation

    July 30, 2014

    Thats true always positive not negative dang hapon sa U jenh

  61. Reply  

    Frankie Randolph

    July 30, 2014

    Girle like it red is love and love that been heart or upsait with someone but giveing a red rose at macking up fum that wine it all good

  73. Reply  

    Darren Koopman

    July 30, 2014

    But you now so long with me..you knw me better then I knw my self …one thing can't wait forever dear

  91. Reply  

    Thandi Vanderstoop

    July 30, 2014

    Nice, but when one likes to be in control of everything because of fear that is difficult to do.

  93. Reply  

    Dee joseph

    July 30, 2014

    Wow you spit alot of Knowledge hopefully it was received…Thanks for sharing…

  106. Reply  

    John M

    July 30, 2014

    well… some people are the verge of a massive heart attack and poking them with a stick is really not a great idea… that is unless they are trying to end your life expeditiously…. sometimes we need to think before we act for a reaction…

  107. Reply  

    chrispus mokono

    July 30, 2014

    thenx dear that is the heart of inspiration i like it you have made my day

  112. Reply  

    indieminorbird

    July 30, 2014

    I try not to , but still do. EG: I reacted to a user who really emotionally hurt me ? I could have sworm at her but instead I remained calm and commented calmy. I did react by blocking and reporting…I dunno is that a reaction. Oh and I cried for about a week, Reaction ?

  113. Reply  

    Raghav panday

    July 30, 2014

    I thank you for the good teaching Jendhamuni,,,,,,
    But everyone is not wise like you , let's say not smart like some of the people of this world wear a skin of goat but they are wolf , the other side some people they can't hide when they are in love , or sad , Angry , one way they are very true there emotions , there face are the book of there life ,
    anybody can read it ,,,,,
    They are innocent ,,,,,,,,
    They are good ,,,,,,
    They are real ,,,,,,,,
    But I like that ,, save emotions for better safer place ,,,,,,
    Can someone suggest me when and how or …..
    How can we have privacy,,,,,, any site ,,,,,
    Life is short I only have 1000, years to love,,,,,, please help me I want to unload my heart which is overflowing ,,,,,,
    life is very very short hurry ,,,,,,

  115. Reply  

    Octomus Prime

    July 30, 2014

    nice words to understand..u r very true..
    dear J. Sos.. 

  117. Reply  

    alan lynn

    July 30, 2014

    I do not know you why would I want to talk with you

  119. Reply  

    KTB s

    July 30, 2014

    Nice Rose ———

  120. Reply  

    Cathy kish

    July 30, 2014

    Thanks my friend for a good advice. Be blessed

  131. Reply  

    Ruth Brown

    July 30, 2014

    Feel your emotions but remember feeling doesn't mean act on your emotions. Choose a action that does not hurt you or others if you need to release the energy from your emotions.

  136. Reply  

    Ron W

    July 30, 2014

    way too late for that today . i got kicked out of the only grocery store ,was only ,place i would have my coffee , paper and sandwitch in the mornning .Me & the GM finnaly had it out . me  telling him off to stop following me into the  restroom so he thinks he can catch me stelling,, his lies to the cop saying how i was begging people for money. calld CO. Legal branch and told them to get ready ,i gonna find somebody to take this to court. was it worth it ? after all of having over 1 yr of this behavior acted out twards me , no , i dident tell him enough times to F off or say it even louder than i did. ( would have lost ny voice , but, i 'd wish he would try that back where im from .

  137. Reply  

    Jocelyn BATY

    July 30, 2014

    Easier said then done but in trying to do better with my emotions

  147. Reply  

    srinivas mohan

    July 30, 2014

    Hold ur reactions and u will never be yourself.Then u start living not as yourself but as others want .Then where is the U.The special and the one and only U.Take care management of reaction is totally different

  151. Reply  

    srinivas mohan

    July 30, 2014

    You are right.There is an insult meted out by a unreasonable man.You were not Kicked out.You are hurting ur self more.Say u were prevented from going to the store with his actions.That is definitely an infringement of your rights,which is actionable.Make an allegation and let him defend himself and explain the hurt he caused U.Don't be upset just act and send him a letter how wrongly he behaved and that u intend to act against his preventing u from doing what u were doing for last so many months.Don't hurt yourself more.

  154. Reply  

    Jonaelias Juma

    July 30, 2014

    nice flower!!!!! but there is a purpose about it either (surprise greetings and so only OK, so tells us #

  155. Reply  

    Vusi Mandande

    July 30, 2014

    Jah good inspiration n motivational words thanx n tke cre

  162. Reply  

    bruzer worrell

    July 31, 2014

    ROSES ARE RED VIOLETS ARE BLUE,. . .    BLESSED LOVE! TO ONE AS SPECIAL AS YOU!     "GIVE THANK'S! FOR LIFE."     {~"SELAH"~}    

  170. Reply  

    Alma Stephens

    August 2, 2014

    Who are you on my phone u are not on my PC good luck give me my pictures back my friend. Terry had me to take a picture of the Navy cause he retried from the Navy he was a POW

  171. Reply  

    Alma Stephens

    August 2, 2014

    I will get him on here he bad bones what we call him but he's. A buddy

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