Let go of anger.
Let go of pride.
When you are bound by nothing
You go beyond sorrow.
~Dhammapada
Walking home on October 30, 2015
Delete resentment in your heart. The person you’re MAD at might have moved on, and they’re not even thinking about you anymore. So, your anger isn’t hurting them, it’s hurting YOU. ~Kemmy Nola
Part 1 of 3: Letting Go of Your Thoughts
1. Accept that you’re thinking too much. Just like eating, thinking is something we need to do to survive, so it is sometimes hard to judge when you are doing too much of it. However, there are several red flags that you are doing too much thinking for your own good. Here are a few of them:
2. Meditate. If you feel like you don’t know how to stop thinking, you need to learn what it’s like to “let go” of your thoughts, so that it’s something you can do deliberately.[1] Imagine that thinking is like breathing; you do it all the time, without even realizing it. But if you need to, you can hold your breath. Meditating will help you learn how to release your thoughts.
Hating yourself won’t make you a better person
Here’s the thing: We all have aspects of ourselves that we know could use a little improvement. The problem is that far too often, we respond to these imperfections with disdain, self-loathing, and harsh criticism. Think about your life like a house you own; things will sometimes break or fall into disrepair. When something isn’t perfect about a house, you don’t say, “Well, time to go berate the f*** out of those loose shingles until they fix themselves!” You say, “Time to give this awkward palace some TLC.” Nothing improves when it’s fed with anger and hatred. That’s true of humans more than anything. Pouring loving energy over yourself as often as possible won’t result in you settling for being mediocre – it will give you the strength and encouragement to fix yourself up.
You will literally never be perfect
Only the worst kind of people are ever “done” evolving. If you ever look at yourself and go, “Yup, this is perfect. I’m all done growing. There is no possible way to improve on all of this”, you’re either delusional or you’re a lame ass quitter who has decided that self-growth has just become too much work. The mere fact that you can still identify parts of yourself that could be better means you are doing awesome. You aren’t afraid to face yourself honestly, you’re brave enough to believe you can be more than you are right now, and you’re motivated enough to try. You see yourself. You’re not lying to yourself. And you know that Future You is a glowing badass. Those are qualities you already have, and that sure as shit is worth loving.
You’ve been lied to about how good you already are
You know all those books and movies where people feel awkward and stupid and basically every shade of incorrect until someone swoops in and makes them feel lovable for the first time and suddenly they’re like a flower opening to the sun? They become a better friend! They get a great job! They can wear heels without tripping! They are an all-around better human being all because someone else entered their lives and told them they were worth a damn. Now imagine if we were told by books and movies that we had the power to do that for ourselves. We wouldn’t have to wait for shit to realize that we already have everything we need to be awesome at life. We would tell ourselves how special and lovely and breathtakingly unique we are. We would rescue ourselves. Let’s move past being pissed that Hollywood has been selling us a bullshit notion that we have to sit on the sidelines of our own lives until someone else comes along to validate us as worthwhile humans; let’s just start doing it for ourselves.
It keeps your standards as high as they should be
The more you love yourself, the easier it will be to recognize when someone isn’t loving you enough. If you treat yourself like shit, it will feel normal when someone else does it. Continue reading
Feel the pleasure of life
in every second.
Never be angry or sad,
Because every 1 minute of your sadness
you lose 60 seconds of happiness…
Keep smiling.
Source: desicomments
Don’t allow someone’s bad behavior to cause you to be someone you are not. Unknown
3 Simple Things You Can Do To Not Be Bothered By People’s Bad Behavior
“What we do today improves all of our tomorrows.”
In order to live the life we want, enjoy the moment in front of us and feel good as we move through the day, we always want the best energy flowing. We want to be able to pour all of our good passion and energy into whatever it is we are trying create and that means we never want to allow anyone or anything to get in the way of doing that.
The Possibility of Today:
1. Realize maintaining your peace of mind and good mood is something you can get better and better at. It’s a muscle that has to be strengthened and every time you push yourself to react calmly and not get bothered or upset by someone else’s bad behavior, you strengthen your “peace of mind muscle”.
2. Look at every situation as a test and an opportunity to strengthen your “peace of mind muscle”. As soon as something happens that would normally trigger you getting bothered, immediately decide you aren’t going to get sucked in. Remind yourself it’s just not worth it. Let any anger or frustration rise to the surface, but then choose to put your attention on something else that is more positive. Eventually, any anger or frustration will evaporate as long as you commit to not getting worked up.
3. Go get your “You Time” after an incident. Go for a walk, listen to your favorite song, do whatever you need to in order to preserve your peace of mind. You want to be at least an 8 on the “peace of mind scale”. If something happens that drops you down to anything less, notice that you are a little off and keep doing things that will help restore you to an 8.
Source: Possibility of today
Seven things to think about before you open your mouth…
1. You may not know all the facts.
2. You may speak too quickly.
3. You may say too much.
4. You may use the truth as a club to hurt others.
5. You may say something you regret later.
6. You may hurt innocent bystanders.
7. You may reveal your own weakness.
~Dr. Ray Pritchard
Compassion compels us to reach out to all living beings, including our so-called enemies, those people who upset or hurt us. Irrespective of what they do to you, if you remember that all beings like you are only trying to be happy, you will find it much easier to develop compassion towards them. Usually your sense of compassion is limited and biased. We extend such feelings only towards our family and friends or those who are helpful to us. People we perceive as enemies and others to whom we are indifferent are excluded from our concern. That is not genuine compassion. True compassion is universal in scope. It is accompanied by a feeling of responsibility. To act altruistically, concerned only for the welfare of others, with no selfish or ulterior motives, is to affirm a sense of universal responsibility. ~Dalai Lama
Peace is built on the foundations of other spiritual practices: connections, compassion, justice, unity. It is a goal of all spiritual people. Peace is an inner state of well-being and calm. It is also an outer project of promoting nonviolence, conflict resolution, and cooperation in the world.
Practice peace by refusing to participate in violence either directly or indirectly. Try to stay composed no matter how agitated the people around you become. Meet conflict with equanimity. Disarm yourself — lower your guard — as a first step in disarming the world.
The inner mirrors the outer. Those conditions that upset the equilibrium of the world — anger, aggression, discord — upset our inner peace as well. You need to deal with them on both levels. Encounters with violence — a contrast to peace — invariably demonstrate the importance of this practice.
Feeling worried, upset, or “crazed” can also get you started doing peace. These states often signify that your emotions have gotten the best of you, and a practice to restore your equanimity is needed. Being even-tempered creates a feeling of serenity. And whereas being agitated can drain your energy, inner calm increases your stamina so that you can sustain your efforts to make the world a more peaceful place. This time the inner supports the outer.
Source: Spirituality and Practice
Don’t be upset and get caught up with things or people that cannot change. Instead, move on, let go and focus on what you are able to change. The things that enhance your life. You deserve to be happy. Source: sms4smile
