It takes a lot of grace and maturity to simply forgive,
but a lot of healing takes place when you do.

 ― Elizabeth George

Relationships don’t last because of the good times,
they last because the hard times were handled
with love and care.~Anmol Andore

Focus on the positive. – Be happy with who you are now, and let
your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Everything that
happens in life is neither good nor bad. It just depends on your
perspective. And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just
the way it should. Either you succeed or you learn something.
So stay positive, appreciate the pleasant outcomes, and learn
from the rest. Your positivity will help encourage those around you.

Source: Marc and Angel

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I was smiling yesterday, I am smiling today
and I will smile tomorrow.
Simply because life is too short
to cry for anything. ~Santosh Kalwar

By Zeenat Merchant Syal
Positive Provocations, May 26, 2012

When you selectively water and nurture your Positive seeds, your relationships glow with sunshine and rainbows.

In each one of us there are negative and positive seeds.

The negative seeds are of anger, hate, discrimination, jealousy.

The positive seeds are of joy, compassion, understanding and loving kindness.

The seeds that are watered regularly take roots and thrive.
For example, if a person spends a lot of time touching her seeds of anger, her life could be about how difficult her children are, or how miserable her scheming colleagues make her. Her seeds of anger will be strong enough to dictate what she thinks, how she relates to others, or how she works.

On the other hand, a person in touch with her seeds of joy will cultivate a rich harvest of nurturing relationships and deep, loving bonds. We, in turn, are constantly watering the seeds of people around us, with every look, word, expression and touch of ours. As parents, we tend to strengthen the positive or negative seeds of our children, quite unconsciously.

How Watering and Nurturing the Positive Seeds of your relationships can make them Glow

Mindfulness comes in handy here. It means being aware and awake to the present moment, being mindful of our own positive and negative seeds, and being mindful of what makes us water the negative seeds of people around us.

3 Healing Steps:

Step 1 – Watering the Flower: Express what you appreciate and admire about the other person. Make him/her aware of how much you value them. Shine light on their strengths and the amazing qualities they have. By doing so, we are watering and nurturing their positive seeds, which in turn nurture our relationship with them.

Step 2 – Genuine Apologizing: Share genuinely how you regret hurting him/her due to a certain lack of skillfulness in thoughts, speech and action. Make them aware that you are committed to bringing about changes that would enhance the relationship. This step helps to build trust and love between the two individuals.

Step 3 – Lovingly Expressing a hurt: Finally, with immense gentleness and loving kindness, talk about how the other person might have hurt you. Be careful that it does not become confrontational, or a blame game. Avoid vague, generalised statements. The focus is not on settling scores but on building deeper bonds. It is important to note that when one person is speaking, the other person must listen deeply. End this sharing with a warm and ‘loving hug’ to conclude this deeply emotional experience.

Living with compassion, mindfulness and joy in all our relationships can truly add the much needed glow to them. How then can Happiness not prevail. Isn’t this exactly what each of us is looking for?

You don’t always need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens.
 ~Unknown

It may help us, in those times of trouble, to remember that love is not only
about relationship, it is also an affair of the soul. ~Thomas Moore

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