Hold in your reactions. When you feel like you want to react to a situation, hold in the tears or shouting. Think about how you feel before you let yourself react. Once you start, it’s easy to snowball into a bigger reaction than the situation is really worth. Don’t bottle your emotions but do think of a better way to express them or save them until you are in a better, safer place.

• Waiting until the next day to talk to someone who upsets you, for example, can be really good. You’ll have the chance to calm down and you’ll be better able to defend and express yourself.

Keep some perspective. Think about the situation that’s happening around you and think about how it affects your life. Is it really as big a deal as it seems or is it really only going to set you off a little. Compare it to other problems that people might have, like getting cancer or having your house flood. Is it really that big a deal? No? Then don’t sweat it. Learning to let the small things slide off of you can really make a huge difference in how you experience your life.

Source: wikiHow

Be patient. Patience is the begetter of calm. Impatience is the source of agitation and turbulence. Impatience says “I want it NOW” and when “it” doesn’t appear now, you’re liable to lose your temper and let the blood pressure rise. Impatience is often linked to unreasonable expectations about the world and other people (you expect too much of both yourself and of other people) and is often linked to perfectionism, which allows of no space to make errors or slow down. A calm person, on the other hand, is fully aware that errors occur sometimes and that speeding things up is liable to bring on errors, not alleviate them.

• If you catch yourself wanting to rush to do something, stop an evaluate the situation. Will someone die if you don’t get what you need right now? If not, consider that stressing about this situation will only make your life worse and might even impair your judgement.

• If you’re still having trouble being patient, you might just need to practice more. Start by trying to be patient with small things, like waiting in line at the grocery store. Distract yourself by reading all of the headlines on the trashy magazines in the checkout line. Work you way up to more challenging areas in your life, like road rage or dealing with your kids.

Source: wikiHow

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Part of our nature requires solitude, alone time, and a substantial rugged individualism. But this isn’t the whole story of our nature. We feel happier, warmer and better, live longer, and experience life as more meaningful if we love and let ourselves be loved. We must be individuals but we must also relate. To do both, to both be ourselves and relate, requires that we acknowledge the reality of others, include others in our plans, not only speak but listen, and makes ourselves fit by eliminating our more egregious faults and by growing up.

Nothing causes more emotional distress than the thoughts we think. We must do a better job than we usually do of identifying the thoughts that don’t serve us, disputing them and demanding that they go away, and substituting more useful thoughts. Thinking thoughts that do not serve you is the equivalent of serving yourself up emotional distress. Only you can get a grip on your own mind; if you won’t do that work, you will live in distress.

Source: Psychology Today

Don’t hide yourself from others. Let your light shine. Be yourself.
Learn to feel good about yourself and respect who you are.
Genuine people are attractive people. The world needs
the unique you not a scaled down version of you.

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Words and Hearts should be handled with care,
for words misspoken and hearts when broken are the
hardest things to repair. ~Unknown

Little monk from my homeland, Cambodia, brings food to his father who is in jail. This is an example of an unconditional love. We should love our parents, unconditionally. We would not be here, without them. Even if they are hated or rejected by everyone in the society, still, as the son or daughter, we should never reject our parents. We must reach out to them, extend our love and compassion, just like the ocean, that does not reject anyone… ~Jendhamuni