Your man loves you – and doesn’t want to hear certain things from you.

To keep your relationship healthy and happy, stay away from the following phrases. Here are ten things women should never say to their men:

1. “Man up.” This emasculating phrase is never, ever appropriate. He is a man. If he’s not meeting your expectations, learn to communicate this clearly and without insult.

2. “We need to talk.” Yes, you should talk to your man. No, you should not warn him that you need to talk about something yet-to-be-described that will likely be uncomfortable. This phrase is the most likely to shift him into defensive mode. Try a more loving approach and you will surely get better results.

3. “Size doesn’t matter.” If size doesn’t matter, don’t talk about size.

4. “Is she prettier than me?” Related: “Do I look fat in this?” If the question you’re asking him has only one acceptable answer – and if a too-long pause in responding will only feed your insecurities – just trust that his answer would have been the right one and don’t bother to ask it.
5. “You’re just like my ex.” Worse: “I’ve had better.” You don’t want to be compared to his exes, so don’t compare him to yours. Even if he comes out on top, it’s still an awkward comparison.

6. “Are you really that stupid?” Be careful not to use language that emasculates and belittles your guy. Treat him with respect, even when you’re angry or disappointed.

7. “Never mind. I’ll do it myself.” Don’t dismiss the offers of help from your man. A common love language is acts of service. Don’t deny him the opportunity to serve you. Sometimes it’s nice to feel needed.

8. “I can’t live without you.” Use desperate language with caution, and stay clear of phrases that sound clingy in early stages of the relationship. Let him take the lead when it comes to commitment and promises of a future together.

9. “I’m not your mother.” Worse: “I’m just like my mother.” Keep your mom(s) out of it, unless you’re actually talking about patterns learned from your respective families of origin.

10. “Nothing’s wrong.” Yes, it is. He can’t read your mind. If something’s wrong, tell him what’s wrong.

What phrase would you like to banish from the lips of your beloved?

By eHarmony Staff

Beautiful sun rays over Buddhist monks at the graveyard of my little sister, Alanthara. My little brother shot this several hours ago. Today, my five-year-old nephew Kyle, misses his mother so much. He took the snow ball music we bought for his mother home with him. We have one at home, but he would not take it. He wanted the one at his mom’s grave… My mother, father and siblings love my little sister so much. They go visit her almost every day. Before the death of my little sister, a cemetery would be the last place my family would go. But now… all of them are so in love with this place.

As for me, a cemetery is one of the best places in the world. A place where I can be alone, contemplating on the impermanence of life. A place where I can practice detachment and letting go, knowing nothing is permanent in this world. Knowing I cannot take anything with me, not even one penny when I stop breathing. Therefore, why should I chase for something I cannot take…

Jendhamuni

Love is the most healing force in the world; nothing goes deeper than love. It heals not only the body, not only the mind, but also the soul. If one can love then all one´s wounds disappear. Then one becomes whole – and to be whole is to be holy.

Unless one is whole one is not holy. The physical health is a superficial phenomenon. It can happen through medicine, it can happen through science. But the innermost core of one´s being can be healed only through love. Those who know the secret of love know the greatest secret of life. Then there is no misery for them, no old age, no death. Of course the body will become old and the body will die, but love reveals to you the truth that you are not the body. You are pure consciousness, you have no birth, no death. And to live in that pure consciousness is to live in tune with life. Bliss is a by-product of living in tune with life. ~Osho

Happiness and suffering are states of mind, and so their main causes cannot be found outside the mind.

Your hand opens and closes, opens and closes. If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralysed. Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as birds’ wings. ― Rumi

I love elderly so much. When I was a little girl, my grandma taught me to bow, [with my forehead kissing Mother Earth] before every elderly I meet. So, this has been a big thing for me in my life. Back then, while I was playing with my playmates, I would keep my eyes on the street wide open so I would not miss any elderly passing by. From far a way, as soon as I saw them, I would run super fast just to bow before them. I would not leave any of them till they say, ‘May you live up to 100 years old’. Beautiful moment in my life. I still remember this vividly.  ~Jendhamuni

Caption: Delhi, IndiaIndian Prime Minister Narendra Modi addresses the nation from the historic Red Fort during Independence Day celebrations in Delhi August 15, 2014. Modi voiced dismay on Friday at the government in-fighting he found on assuming office in May and vowed to fire up the bureaucracy to deliver results in a country desperately in need of growth and development. In the background is the Jama Masjid (Grand Mosque). REUTERS/Ahmad Masood

By Harichandan, International Business Times, August 19 2014

Tata Consultancy Services (NSE: TCS), India’s biggest technology services company, and Bharti Enterprises, parent firm of Bharti Airtel, the country’s largest wireless provider, will spend 1 billion rupees each ($16.5 million), to build toilets for schoolgirls and people in rural areas.

The companies said in separate statements that they are responding to Indian Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s call to corporations in the country step up and share the responsibility of a “Clean India” initiative the federal government is expected to launch on Oct. 2.

“The poor need respect and it begins with cleanliness,” Modi said in his first Independence Day speech, on Aug. 15, speaking in Hindi. Modi led his Bharatiya Janata Party to a landslide victory in India’s general elections earlier this year, raising hopes among businesses that he will put the country to work and get its economy back on the road to growth.

Indian companies should use their ‘corporate social responsibility’ budgets to prioritize toilets for schoolgirls, he said. “All schools in the country should have toilets with separate toilets for girls. Only then will our daughters not be compelled to leave schools midway.”

Bharti Enterprises will spend up to 1 billion rupees over the next three years through its development arm, Bharti Foundation, to improve rural household sanitation and build toilets for girls in government schools, according to a statement. TCS said it will build 10,000 toilets in schools in India.

“We firmly believe that achieving the mission of providing hygienic sanitation for girl students will have a tangible impact on the level of education achievement and development of India’s next generation,” CEO N. Chandrasekaran said in a statement.

The lack of proper toilets for female students in the nation’s schools is seen as a big challenge to improving literacy rates among women in a society that typically favors spending on educating its male offspring. Modi also used his speech to slam the desire for male children among large sections of Indian society, pointing out that it has helped skew the sex ratio in the country to 940 girls born for every 1,000 boys.

There’s no one with intelligence in this town except that man over there playing with the children, the one riding the stick horse. He has keen, fiery insight and vast dignity like the night sky, but he conceals it in the madness of child’s play. ― Rumi

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