Living with disappointment

January 17, 2013

Buddha taught about living with disappointment. He said that we experience everything in terms of the Eight Worldly Concerns: gain and loss, praise and blame, pleasure and pain, happiness and unhappiness. We of course want gain, praise, pleasure, and happiness. But the Buddha referred to them as the "terrible twins" because each always arrives with its opposite. One cannot be open to praise and not receive blame. One cannot experience pleasure and not feel pain. This is the nature of the reality that we know.
 
The Buddha taught that it was the denial of this truth that is the cause of all suffering. You cling to your desire for the positive in life while being filled with aversion to the negative events that occur. Yet despite all your efforts, you don't get many of the things you want, or they don't continue to satisfy you, or they go away. This is the Buddha's first noble truth: the existence of duhkha a feeling of unsatisfactoriness that accompanies every experience in which we are identified with our needs.

Disappointment has a chimerical quality because our minds refuse to accept what is; therefore, we relive the disappointment over and over again, never noticing after the initial experience that it is only a memory we are re-experiencing, much like watching old movie reruns.

Source: Dharma Wisdom

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  1. Reply  

    Rishi Kalyani

    January 17, 2013

    hi jen
    hw r u
    ur saying is so good that they understand it good for them
    & they not it is not good jen

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    Jendhamuni Sos

    January 17, 2013

    I see what you mean +Rishi Kalyani I added you to my circle only. You don't see me in chat list because I don't chat online. Hope you don't mind.

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    Rishi Kalyani

    January 17, 2013

    why u not chat in online jen
    u r comment & talking then why don't u on chat not video calling only chat list jen

  18. Reply  

    vidya sagar

    January 17, 2013

    nice saying and excellent expressions with examples friend.

  19. Reply  

    Charles van Dijk

    January 17, 2013

    Embrace whatever you experience through your conciousness. Threat all other people the same way as you would like to be treated. Adapted from the Rabbi Gamaliel

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    Jendhamuni Sos

    January 17, 2013

    +Rishi Kalyani My time on g+ is very limited. I only come here when time allows me, so I could share a few posts, exchange a few comments with some friends in my circle, just to keep in touch. Chatting would take so much time from my work, as the time I spend here is unpredictable. If you have question, you can always leave me a private post and I will answer you when time allows. Hope you understand my situation, Rishi. Please have a wonderful day okay.

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    Rajgopal Ramachandran

    January 17, 2013

    According to Lord Budha, desire is the root cause of all sufferings. good night, see u tomorrow

  28. Reply  

    Rene Sidler

    January 17, 2013

    Where there is light, there is also shadow — Thank you so much Jendhamuni for the wise words together with your really beautiful photo.  I'm not sure if these are cherry blossoms… Anyway – BEAUTIFUL 🙂

  41. Reply  

    Jendhamuni Sos

    January 17, 2013

    +Rene Sidler They do look like cherry blossoms to me. Thanks so much for reading this post, Rene. Hope we all can start putting this into practice.

  46. Reply  

    p.swarna kumar

    January 18, 2013

    wonderful…dear jendhamuni…

  51. Reply  

    khin zaw lwin

    January 20, 2013

    You know quite well about Buddhism.You should continue about other Noble Truths for the sake of your friends and public.

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