How to handle people who are angry at You

March 11, 2014

1. Stay calm. Any angry person can cause a chemical reaction in you that could make the situation worse.

2. Assess the reason why the person is angry at you. Try to put yourself in their shoes. What if they would have done to you what you did to them? Don't be afraid to admit you were unfair to them. It's an act of courage, as long as it doesn't become a habit. They may be angry at the situation and not you personally.

3. Accept the fact that this person is angry with you, whether it's true or not; let them vent, stand back, don't get in their way. Show them you actually listen to what they say. This may already be part of the solution. Normally people will calm down if they see you have a sincere interest in what they say. Communication is the keyword. Sometimes anger at a situation can be defused by letting the person know you hear their problem. Try repeating back what they say in the form of a question. This could prompt them to clarify their position. Or ask them, "Could you say that differently (or in a different way)?"

4. Time heals. Hurt feelings can make people unable to reason well. Many people react when they are angry by avoiding the person they are angry with for a while. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. It can give them time to reflect and perhaps realize how much they care about you. Where angry reactions are quickly triggered, however, try to follow the previous steps and stretch out time as best you can without being obvious.

5. Break the loop. Angry people can often repeat themselves when they aren't thinking rationally or think you don't get what they mean. Find a way to stop the repetition by telling them you understand, repeating what they said in another way, or simply changing the subject slightly.

6. Give up for now if the person is still angry with you even though you think it isn't your fault and you've tried to tell them that. If it's a stranger, you might tell them you're sorry in any case and just get on. It's more useful and easier to educate people you know than a stranger you might not ever see again, especially when things are happening around you quickly and there may be no better option. Sometimes there is nothing else you can do.

Source: KikiHow
Edited by Teresa, Deardivebuddy,
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  2. Reply  

    Linda Anne

    March 11, 2014

    Love this so many angry people out there 🙁

  12. Reply  

    Maheswar Ojha

    March 11, 2014

    Good morning dear +Jendhamuni Sos.
    Very practical tips to handle life 's some tough situation . Have a blissful day my friend and, take care .

  18. Reply  

    Corina Farser

    March 11, 2014

    Just don't speak with them while they are angry wait until they calm down

  38. Reply  

    Narendra Lawate

    March 12, 2014

    Nice advice. Angry hone wale log vikaro she bhare note hai yane wo-hote hai .realise karo hum to+ me hai Hume vikar nahi hai

  39. Reply  

    kaleefa shums

    March 12, 2014

    I like & love yours adding flower wallpapers.thankyou.

  49. Reply  

    GEETHA R

    March 12, 2014

    very cute rose.Good morning,,,,,,,,,,,,,…………..,,,,,,,,,,,,,

  56. Reply  

    Paresh Patel

    March 12, 2014

    Very nice and this pic is more beautiful pic in your all pic

  91. Reply  

    Patience Pearl

    March 12, 2014

    That is true,crying helps you get rid of the anger inside of you and make you feel gud again

  124. Reply  

    Metry Lecky

    March 12, 2014

    it's helpfull to put in to practice n Thank's.

  143. Reply  

    Nandhini S

    March 12, 2014

    Its so beautiful…and amazing… Pinky Rose's

  144. Reply  

    marilou gani

    March 12, 2014

    Good morning….thanks that I see this post a nice pink rose, cos I'm angry today but now its gone hahaha

  150. Reply  

    Nandhini S

    March 12, 2014

    Rose is the best one for symbol of love and affection

  151. Reply  

    nash gamboa

    March 12, 2014

    That's a bright idea girl… Add with prayers as the BIBLE say "love your enemies, pray for them" Amen!!!

  158. Reply  

    Sappa Sumitra

    March 12, 2014

    Great * but how many wil adopt this type of thinking?

  181. Reply  

    Solomon Bapinyim

    March 12, 2014

    Oh what a meaningful, educative and life applicative words. More grease to your elbow.

  206. Reply  

    Jocelyn Reforzado

    March 12, 2014

    Hi! You give me an ideas how to handle my boss whose always agry at me most of the time with out a reason, i almost lost my patient, thankz for the pink flower.

  218. Reply  

    Mimosa Belan

    March 12, 2014

    Very well said,cause this is the truth and it is a reality of life….

  221. Reply  

    Yinka Akinjobi

    March 12, 2014

    you can handle them by d fear of God in u,1.tolerance 2.patience 3.persistent in prayer etc

  234. Reply  

    amna rana

    March 12, 2014

    What a beautiful i reaiy lik
    …………

  239. Reply  

    Bablu Khan

    March 12, 2014

    Hi jendhamuni iwant to have friendship wid u.Are u?

  248. Reply  

    Chizoba S. Onuora

    March 12, 2014

    Nice 1…. a lil difficult if d person is @ fault… I pray 4d grace to practice dis

  249. Reply  

    Chizoba S. Onuora

    March 12, 2014

    Nice 1…. a lil difficult if d person is @ fault… I pray 4d grace to practice dis

  270. Reply  

    Lydia Chirenda

    March 12, 2014

    Wooow pink roses I love them coz it means a lot me peace gentle love and kind thanks mr adviser

  271. Reply  

    Lydia Chirenda

    March 12, 2014

    Wooow pink roses I love them coz it means a lot me peace gentle love and kind thanks mr adviser

  296. Reply  

    Sunny Milke

    March 12, 2014

    I love the roses, they're beautiful!!And what you said was too!!

  303. Reply  

    Corina Farser

    March 12, 2014

    Walk away from them because angry people becomes viloent

  306. Reply  

    Diana Mcrae

    March 13, 2014

    So very true and fitting. Its hard when it hurts

  317. Reply  

    NOAH STRIGAA

    March 14, 2014

    rose determines how strong a lav is as far as romance is corncered.

  318. Reply  

    NOAH STRIGAA

    March 14, 2014

    rose determines how strong a lav is as far as romance is corncered.

  320. Reply  

    Naeem Ahmed

    March 14, 2014

    I think if u left a beautifull smile at on angry people so he will forgive all urs mistake

  321. Reply  

    H L ANAND

    March 14, 2014

    Be at calm & never be angry. Funda of quality life.

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