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People with gentle manners -- polite and kind -- are bound to attract the love of those who meet them, along with their cooperation and help. This is personal magnetism. For this reason we should try to maintain the qualities mentioned above. They will become a means of helping us attain all of our objectives, both now and in the future.
Remember: If you want the sympathy of others, send thoughts of sympathy in their direction, and you will receive their sympathy in return -- this is a law of mental dynamics -- and all the success you wish for will without a doubt come your way.
We must practice putting the mind back into shape. Before we do anything, while we're doing it, and after it's done, we have to practice keeping the mind cheerful and bright, with a constant sense of well-being. This will help us to gain strength of body and strength of mind and to enjoy living. The mind will blossom, and whatever we have to learn we will understand and remember with ease, just as a blossoming flower opens itself to welcome drops of dew and fresh air.
Even when we are seriously ill, with pain racking the entire body, if we have a sense of how to put the mind in the pleasure of peace, the pain won't be able to disturb the mind.
And once the mind is calm -- it can calm the body and cure its pain, at the same time experiencing the pleasure of peace -- and there is no greater pleasure.
The Lord Buddha taught us to practice in three ways:
1. To begin with, he taught us to put our words and deeds at peace through virtue, not allowing any gross faults or dishonesty to arise in word or deed.Don't waste your strength of mind trying to force them. Keep the mind free and stable at all times, unaffected by events -- and this will keep the mind firmly established in the pleasure of peace.2. He taught us to give rise to the pleasure of peace in the heart through concentration, training the mind not to think thoughts of lust,
anger,
greed,
delusion,
fear,
restlessness,
or uncertainty -- things that make the mind irresolute and indecisive. Once these things can be abandoned, the heart is calm, giving rise to the pleasure of peace within.3. He taught us to put our views at peace through discernment, reflecting so as to see that:
When we see these truths, the mind becomes strong, resilient, stable, and resolute, unaffected by events -- because we have seen the truth, with our own discernment, that such things are undependable and unstable; that they have to change, deteriorate, and disband; that they don't lie under our power.
- All things are undependable and inconstant (aniccam).
- They can't last. They must alter, deteriorate, and disband. (Thus they are said to be dukkham, or stressful.)
- They don't lie under our power or control. We can't force them or plead with them to follow our wishes. (Thus they are said to be anatta or not-self.)
The mind will be free and gain power -- mind power -- which we can use to make all our duties and affairs succeed in accordance with our goals.
N'atthi santi param sukham: No other pleasure is greater than peace.
It takes a peaceful mind to support a peaceful body, and a peaceful body to support a peaceful mind; and both a peaceful mind and a peaceful body to attain all the success that you wish.
Once wrong, rememberThink carefully and you'll notice that all scientific researchers, as well as all outstanding teachers of the Dhamma, have without exception overcome the obstacle of their own mistakes countless times.
to prevent twice wrong in the future.
Thrice wrong and you'd better think carefully,
my friend.
Four times, five, and six --
What forgiveness can there be?
Every form of life -- human, animal, even plant life -- survives through struggle, in line with the saying, 'Life is struggle.' At whatever moment we can no longer keep up the struggle, we have to die. So as long as we keep our composure, then even when death comes, only the body dies -- just as with the life of the Lord Buddha and the arahants: They had full composure with every mental moment, so that they never made mistakes. That was how they reached deathlessness, the state of immortality. Thus their death was called parinibbana: the disbanding and extinguishing of nothing more than the physical and mental phenomena termed the five aggregates (khandha): body, feeling, perception, mental processes, and consciousness.
Thus we should develop composure (mindfulness before acting, speaking and thinking) and self-awareness (clear comprehension while acting, speaking, and thinking). Once we are done, we should use mindfulness to check back and consider if anything is defective or if everything is in proper order. If anything is defective, then immediately make corrections so as to be perfect the next time around. If everything is already in order, keep trying to have things in even better order until reaching the ultimate.
1. The gross forms of defilement that transgress in the area of word and deed can be overcome through virtue.
The intermediate forms of defilement that arise in the heart -- liking and disliking, deluded love and deluded hatred -- can be overcome through concentration.
The subtle forms of defilement -- misunderstandings, misperceptions, and misconceptions concerning the true nature of natural processes -- can be overcome through discernment.
2. A person who studies and practices fully and completely in line with the Triple Training -- virtue, concentration, and discernment -- is sure to gain release from all suffering and stress without a doubt. Thus we should be interested, earnest, and intent on studying and practicing in line with the Triple Training at all times.
The life of human beings is like a play. Try to be the hero or heroine with the best reputation, just like the jasmine. Don't be the villain. And remember that the jasmine blooms fully only for two or three days and then withers away.
So make yourself your best. Make your life, as long as it lasts, the most fragrant, like the jasmine just beginning to bloom. Choose to do only the good.
To do good is like light oil: When you pour it on water, it is bound to float as an iridescence over the surface. To do good adds to your dignity and to your reputation. People will be sure to praise and respect you, to exalt you like the oil that floats over water. Even if you should have enemies intent on hating you, reviling you to make you sink, they won't have any effect and will simply fall victim to their own efforts.
So make up your mind to be courageous in doing only the good, without fear or apprehension for any obstacle whatsoever. The person who trusts in the Triple Gem, the person with true happiness, the person who prospers, achieving his or her desired goals, is the person who does only the good.